When I was in 6th grade, my girlfriend was the one.
When I was in 7th grade, my girlfriend was the one.
10th grade? Same thing.
Except it wasn’t. How do I know this? Because I married only ONE wonderful woman, and she wasn’t any of them! In fact, we never even went on a date until we were married! But boy, that’s a whole nother’ story.
The right person at the wrong time is the wrong person. Only the right person at the right time is the right person.
All throughout the Bible we see no example of casual dating: “We’re 15, we spend every day together, and we’ll just have fun and love each other until we get married 10 years from now.” Nope. Try me. It’s not in there.
No, we see something far greater. We see people save themselves, wait and then spend a little time getting to know each other as they seek God’s will and sign. When he speaks, they enter covenant, and they glorify God and love one another until they die.
When will you get married? Think about it, and if you’re nowhere near that season, then it’s not your season. Song of Solomon wasn’t lying when it said over and over again, “Don’t stir up or awaken love until it’s time.” Until it’s time, you’re just playing with matches. Try not to get burned.
Hollywood teaches us that relationships start something like this:
“Let’s go out sometime.”
I suppose it could work. But what if your date is horrible!?!? Now hear me out, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a man making his intentions known early on and being clear. If anything i strongly encourage it. The friend-zone is NO fun. But there is something special about getting around someone for a good amount of time, learning their interests and relating to them before you pull the love trigger. Regardless of what culture says, friends and relationships are not entirely different realities. If you’re going to live in the same house with somebody for the rest of your life, you’re going to want them to be YOUR BEST FRIEND. Trust me. So be a friend first, flirt later. It works great that way 🙂
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